As Muslims, we always want to connect our children with the religion of Allah at an early age so they are able to differentiate between good and bad. However, the world around us presents unique challenges and obstacles to achieve simple spirituality. Come to think of it, our children live in very different times than us and parenting itself seems a daunting task. Going back to the source, our religion provides us beautiful parenting rules from the Quran and Sunnah to make the most of the parent-child relationship and take care of children the way that is best for them. Let’s take a look at some of these parenting rules.
Parenting rule 1: Teach them religion
We often come across people who ask us when it is the right time to introduce Allah to your child, when is the best time to start teaching the Quran, wear hijab, etc. What we see from the Sunnah is that children were acquainted with their religion right from their early childhood. They would watch their parents pray and in some cases, would even join them. For instance, the Prophet (peace be upon him) would go to the masjid with his grandson, who would then play on top of him while he led the prayers.
If we want our children to have an understanding of the religion, we need to introduce it to them early on.
Parenting rule 2: Make Dua for them
As a parent, your Dua holds weight. The Prophet (peace be upon him) would often make Dua for his grandchildren.
He saw Hasan and Husain, and he said: “O Allah, I love them, so love them.”
We see the power of a parents dua rooted deeply in Islamic history. From the mothers of the prophets to revered scholars of Islam, there are countless examples of how powerful a parent’s dua is.
Parenting rule 3: Fulfill their rights
Your child is an anamah from Allah. They have a right to be loved and to be cared for. They have a right that you provide for them.
Ibn ‘Umar said, “Allah has called them the ‘dutiful’ (al-Abrar) because they are dutiful (birr) to their parents and children. Just as you have a duty which you owe your parents, so you have a duty which you owe your child.”
(Al Adab Al-Mufrad)
Parenting rule 4: Express love towards them
Many companions of the Prophet (peace be upon him) would testify that he was expressive of his love. He publicly showed affection to his children, grandchildren, and even other kids around.
For instance, whenever Faatimah would enter upon the Prophet, that he would stand up to greet her in a show of love.
‘A’isha said, “A bedouin came to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and asked, “Do you kiss your children? We do not kiss them.’ The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, ‘Can I put mercy in your hearts after Allah has removed it from them?’”
(Al Adab Al-Mufrad)
Parenting rules from the Quran and Sunnah are many. But these three top the list. Be kind and merciful towards your child, love them, express your love towards them and teach them the difference between right and wrong at a very young age.
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